Whoa! I so do not know how to set healthy boundaries. I am a people pleaser to a fault. I am so afraid of rejection that I will stomp on myself to make sure others like me. Why would they like me, if I don't treat myself with respect? A friendship that is in my life right now keeps coming up and biting me in the butt. I keep putting myself out there, dropping my boundaries and yes, it keeps slapping me in the face. I realized a few weeks ago that I need boundaries and when I set them up, the person freaked out. So here I am, getting taken advantage off, and to make matters worse I allowed myself to experience a sad, difficult thing today in order to make things easier on them. And here I am suffering from the experience.
At least I am on Step 1. Realizing I have a boundary problem.
and I am on Step 2. Working on setting healthy boundaries
and I need to move on to Step 3. Maintaining healthy boundaries
It's so frusterating. I feel like I give to much to others and I am left with less for myself. Less of everything. This is by far the first time, and I am sure it will not be the last. I just really really really REALLY hope that I will figure out how to create and keep boundaries that make me more healthy.
Anyone have any suggestions? I could use some advice.
I found this article, if you want to check it out: http://ezinearticles.com/?Setting-Boundaries-in-Relationships&id=212273
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